HOW TO STAY PURE WHILE YOU'RE SINGLE, DATING OR ENGAGED
Before I share some tips on how to stay pure I want you to know some of my story..
I was 13 when I had my first kiss and by the absolute GRACE of God I still have my virginity today. I dated quite a few guys, I led a lot of guys on and I stayed with a guy I knew wasn't the one God had for me for 3 years. I found my worth in the attention I got from guys and I didn't feel that I measured up unless I had a boyfriend. God asked me to give it up.
He asked me to give up what I thought love was so I could experience what LOVE really is.
My senior year was one of the best years of my life. Never had I experienced an awakening in my heart for the things of God like I did that year. Extraordinary things happen when you surrender your life to Jesus, but living surrendered isn't easy. It's a battle. The enemy is always on the prowl and I wasn't expecting the fight that lay ahead.
Just because I surrendered my life to Jesus didn't mean that longing went away or that I still didn't have to fight the urge to find my worth in the approval of men. God had to teach me what it meant to live PURE not only physically but mentally. I definitely had my fair share of bumps in the road and have been far from perfect on this journey. The fight to wait on God hasn't been easy but time after time He has reminded me that it will be worth it.
I want to remind you today that it IS worth it to wait. Purity isn't lame or something to laugh at but something to be valued and treasured. No matter the things you've done or what this world says is acceptable you can start honoring God with your mind and body today. He will restore what has been lost, He will be your strength and He will honor your willingness to start living pure now later on in your marriage. The way God intended relationships to be is more fulfilling than what this world has tried to sell us. Live Pure.
Tips for all of you Single and Waiting:
1. God, His Word, Prayer
ex. Spend time in His Word every day. Hide it in your heart so when those thoughts come you can fight them with His truth. Pray for your future husband/wife and for them to also choose purity.
2. Guard your mind: Be careful what you listen to, read and watch
ex. If your mind is going somewhere it shouldn't turn it off or close it.
3. Guard your heart: Don't hangout with your guy/girl friends alone
ex. If you can't go to coffee w/o immediately thinking about marrying or making out with them then you may want to think about just hanging out in groups (which is always a smart decision)
3. ACCOUNTABILITY... Have a friend you trust that will ask you the hard questions and who knows your struggles.
Tips for those who are Dating or Engaged:
1. God, His Word, Prayer
ex. Spend time in His Word together and separate. Hide His Word in your heart because when it gets tough to choose purity (and it will) you can fight back against the enemy with those scriptures. Pray together often.. especially before your dates.
2. Don't put yourself in a position to fail.. Set boundaries at the very beginning of your relationship.
ex. Don't be in their bedroom alone... until you're married. Talk about how you can best honor God and one another and then follow through with those boundaries.
Girls: dress in a way that honors him
Guys: encourage modesty.. lead your girl well
3. ACCOUNTABILITY... Have a friend you trust that will ask you the hard questions and that also knows the boundaries you have set in your relationship
ex. You: We are going on a date tonight. Friend: Where? What time? With who? Lets Pray.
4 Always hangout in groups... then you CAN'T fail haha
ex. Go on fun double dates.. there will be plenty of alone time when you're married.
Here are some of my favorite scriptures that have helped me fight for purity:
1 Corinthians 10:13 - "No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, He will also provide a way out so that you can endure it."
Psalm 119:9 - "How can a young person stay on the path of purity? By living according to your word."
1 Timothy 4:12 - "Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity."
Psalm 51:10 - "Create in me a pure heart, O God, and renew a steadfast spirit within me."
I am praying that this blog post is just the beginning of many that will encourage you to evaluate, value and proudly walk in purity. If you have any encouragement or tips that have helped you stay pure on your journey of navigating relationships please share them in the comments below. We are all on this journey together so lets lift one another up along the way.
He is our strength. We can't do this without Him.
In His Love,